Fun fact. I love legal pads. Interestingly enough, I’ve long since been obsessed with the allure of them. Not sure if it stems from wanting to be a lawyer for so much of my life, or just wanting to feel important; either way, I never really pass on the opportunity to write. I’m the exact same way with post it notes. I used to write my journal entries at work on post its, in between calls, down to the call center. Now I’m using legal pads. The big ones are mildly intimidating, I much prefer the smaller pages, but any legal pad will do.

Some where along my start this morning I felt convicted, for sure as I sat in the back of the uber on my route to work. There inside me felt this massive weight of conviction, guilt that I am not working hard enough, doing enough to propel myself forward. Don’t you just love|hate when those moments creep their way into your consciousness? I swear. Yet, with as much as I’ve been able to accomplish in LA thus far I’m left knowing that there is so much more to be done, because the fact of the matter is I am only actually providing a small application of work|effort on my end, and that doesn’t please me. It does not serve me well.

The Monday After: “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”

Its Monday. Like it or not, we meet again. Someone told me, years ago, that Mondays set the tone, and I find that to be a consistent truth. That being said, I wanted to sculpt out a place where we can continue our conversations from Sundays’ podcasts. If you haven’t already, be sure to subscribe and download.


This weeks topic was all about love and the expectation we place on it. Not unlike our ability to fall in love with people based on condition:potential, attention, etc. The thing I love most about this experience is the active decision you make to participate in the conversation! Because, that’s what it’s all about and as always is the case your feedback only enhanced the conversation and leads to a whole world of thinking. In particular, the way that we, as millennials, see the world and love. We spend a lot of our time in love or dating based on potential, and I think thats because there is the constant focus on where we fit into society; our ability to garner success, to gain love and happiness and to have this gigantic visibility, socially, as having made it. There is such a lack of transparency, and too much focus on what things look like. Lauryn Hill told you, “Fantasy is what people want, but reality is what they need.”

Yet, another important aspect of the conversation that was overlooked is the idea of soulmate. Its one that I try and stray away from, honestly, I spend a lot of time refuting the notion that there is one person, on Earth, whose soul tie in mine seamlessly. Perhaps because its too painful an experience? I can say this for certain, I know who my soulmate is, but I don’t think that means much. I feel that way because we all have free will. So even without the chance to be with your soulmate, or even meet them, you can live happily ever after, with someone else. I feel like we make a decision to be with someone, and thats it. That decision trumps the possibility or our need to search for the one. Wait. I think thats it, I don’t believe in the one. I do believe we all have a soulmate. I don’t think we have to be with our soulmate to be happy. Or, to have some form of happy.

One thing is certain, love is the most complex predicament we will ever find ourselves captive. Still, its completely subjective. So, tell me what you think.

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