Sometimes I listen back to the podcast and I cringe. There were so many moments, in this episode, where I felt as if I had no clue how to articulate just exactly what was on my mind. And, I do believe, that’s the beauty of this After Sundayseries.
We started this weeks episode with an announcement, that low-key, went seemingly unnoticed. Perhaps it was just that natural, but LUHRAY is the official co-host of The Sunday Afternoon podcast. I’m thrilled for many reasons. Not just because we have known each other for the most of our lives, or because when I first had the idea to go in and start a podcast I wanted to do it with her, but more than anything, because we gel so well together! I believe ours is a relationship that will grow both of us, the show, and our brands, collectively and independently. There is so much work to do, but I truly am excited to move forward into all that is to come.
Also, I wanted to flush out a bit more of the conversation we had about my father and his birthday. You can check out the backstory on our relationship, here. I think that Laure’s advice was deeply insightful, to just be, and invite the man to do things that we can both appreciate, together. I won’t lie, it won’t be the easiest thing in the world, for me. However, it really changes my perspective and takes the pressure off of trying to repair a relationship and just foster a space to build with the man.
In many ways, thats the exact same sentiment we have to take with relationships in general. Getting rid of all the pressure and just learning to be with people and communicating with them. More openly and more honestly. That’s the challenge of adulting. At least as I know it to be.
The idea of support is pertinent to me. When you think about you dreams and your goals there is no way you can consider them coming to fruition without some semblance of support. The topic was liking and lurking. Which one are you? I’ve spent a lot of time considering my vantage point and changing my mindset when it comes to an assessment of social media. It’s hard y’all, because we spend so much time in our own heads consistently evaluating the way in which other people perceive us. I can save you some trouble, it leads to nowhere. Chin up and check out this episode.
After Sunday’s is a weekly blog that will chronicle, or kind of decompress a lot of the things we discussed on the podcast, things that I may have overlooked, or missed out on the chance to really unpack. This week I sat down with Delontè and we had a conversation that I really enjoyed! I wanted to pick up on a few things in writing.
Tanikka. Thats my oldest sister, she has Lupus, two beautiful children, and she consistently exudes a level of grace (in front of people) that is completely unmatched. Anytime she is sickly in the hospital she is always beyond well mannered and courteous. She speaks to everyone who come into her room, nurse, doctor, housekeeper; and asks intently how they are doing. Her spirit is pure and genuine, kind. The most pure kindness I have ever experienced, even in her illness.
It’s almost baffling. She has spent the majority of her life sick and without complaint. We know that fear is not of God, and that is how I know that she experiences God, or at the very least, the love of Christ. Because, I’ve never left feeling that she was in fear of her life. Well, maybe twice, in so many years have I ever felt the extent of the severity of this chronically life threatening disease. I attribute that to her, her behavior. When I really sit and think about it, it makes me change my prayer, because I am grateful that God would grant her with such strength, she face her illness head on and she is unwavering in her ability to defeat it, consciously or not. Also, it reignites in me a passion for family. The necessity to take advantage of the opportunity to celebrate, love, and be with them, now; presently.
gay church members are disillusioned? -more on this later, I’m still exploring this and I’ll wait to discuss this after my sit down with the Bishop.
The ordeal of the pee. Look, I don’t know why this was such a big deal for me because it’s something I so easily don’t subscribe to; however, something on the call made me feel inclined to help this person, with whom I so clearly no longer share a friendship. And so, the bigger issue is discovery. Having to sit and identify what within myself, still struggles with people pleasing. To be completely honest, it is an area that I feel has hindered me in so many ways! In the past I have been more eager to help and contribute to the success of others, before I even contribute to my own. That’s overwhelmingly flawed and I’ve come a long way, but this was a reminder that progress is just that, progress…
Check out this episode and let me know what you think! I love your responses and they may find themselves in next weeks episode.
1 SOUNDS OF REVIVAL
William McDowell has an amazing new gospel CD out! I purchased the album on iTunes on my way to work yesterday and I fell out. My grandmother introduced me to Jesus on her fireplace so many moons ago, and this is exactly how I first met Him. The CD is full, its praise and worship, free forming and it gives you the opportunity to completely participate in the experience. Its not black. Its not white. Its just Jesus.
2 PASSION PROJECT
Ok, so here’s the thing, everyone needs a passion project! Despite your age, sex, occupation, all of that, we need to be inspired and these projects give up room to grow creatively. Aside from The Sunday Afternoon w/ Keith Andre Podcast, and this site, I had an epiphany a few days ago (I’ll share more on the podcast) to direct and perform in one of my favorite plays. I am incredibly excited, and overwhelmingly anxious, but I believe in my dream and I’ve been reminded to believe in the vision that God has given me. I ordered the play a few days ago and I can’t wait to get started with the project!
Linda listen, I really wish y’all would allow her to be great! We’ve all heard about her response in regard to the Oscars and the Smiths, but she landed herself an interview w on HuffPost Live where she dishes further on her beliefs and the little miss Dash who must not be mentioned. Agree or disagree, I’m here all the way for Aunt Viv! I think that she is talented, she has a pedigree and I live for the way she presents herself. Give her one more chance world, I’d like to see her acting again, or at least a Celebrity Apprentice type of gig.
4 FITNESS FUN!
Yea right! I have been struggling with my body goals for a few months now. To be completely honest, I managed to fall completely off the wagon and I am having the most difficult time hopping back on! Fitness is important. I’m all about having goals for yourself and finding ways to accomplish all it is that you aspire, but above all I want to be healthy and I hope you do too. And I don’t need your skinny shaming. My body is compact but it aint all that I want it to be so hush. I’ve been working with The Hawk Personal Training to find ways get my fitness back in check! The hardest part at this point is starting, and making the time to get it done. Owner and trainer, Ty Hawkins, based out of NC sends me a detailed regiment every Friday for the week. Continue to pray y’all, and you can email her directly if you’re interested as well.
Somewhere along the way I missed the memo that this man was a complete boss. Well, I’m quite remiss, but I’m taking detailed notes. Earlier this week he did an interview with the breakfast club and shared just how dope he is. What I enjoy most is how intentional he is with his brand and the decisions he makes to sustain his greatness.
In case you missed it, the list is out for the 2016 Academy Award nominees. Surprisingly to some, way more than others, the list features no one of color, not in any of the four major categories (or elsewhere really), for the second year in a row. I’m hugely disappointed, and I’ve wrote about it years ago, here, White Guilt in Hollywood, for MusedMagazine. Now, with sentiments like those of Jada Pinkett-Smith,
But we are rarely recognized for our artistic accomplishments. Should people of color refrain from participating all together?
I definitely plan to see The Revenant and its looking like the Academy may finally be ready to give Leo his Oscar, but I may be boycotting this years festivities.
3 SHADES OF BLUE
At 46 years old Jennifer Lopez is a complete powerhouse. She’s left a long withstanding mark on the entertainment industry and she’s leading a new series, Shades of Blue on NBC, Thursdays at 10PM. At it’s premise the show is about a complicated cop (J.Lo) who finds herself in a dilemma to face jail time or turn on her squad as an informant for the FBI. The show is two episodes in and I’ll continue to watch, check it out.
He’s the son of RNB legend Brian McKnight and just like Dad he has a voice and is pursuing music. I came across Archie McKnight on twitter and he shared this song with me. What I appreciate most is the fact that he is telling a story through song, you know, the way RNB music always has? Well, in 2016 its not the easy thing to hold onto. His palate is reminiscent of Usher mixed with Mario and of course Brian. Check out TheFALLAlbum on soundcloud, here.
5 NURSE JACKIE
Nothing is more comforting on the weekend then a good binge on Netflix. Sure, I’m tardy to the party bur I’m now in the fourth season of showtimes hit, Nurse Jackie. At its crux the show is a survey of humanity. Jackie is flawed deeply; yet, righteous and completely relatable. If you’ve got the time give it a chance.
Emergency room nurse Jackie Peyton does everything she can to provide her patients with the best care possible while navigating the waters of a crumbling health-care system. But she has a secret that is increasingly difficult to keep from people — she relies on Vicodin and Adderall to get her through high-stress shifts at a New York hospital, where she isn’t above bending the rules to keep things running smoothly in the face of indifferent doctors, penny-pinching bean counters and miles of bureaucratic red tape.
The entertainment and news cycles come and go so quickly these days. Believe me, I know how hard it can be to keep current with all the going ons around us. I get it, there are times when you’re on social media and your one goal is to get caught up, so you have no choice but to quickly scroll through everything, giving no regard to some of the many posts of substance we see, on a daily basis. Heres a look at the top five stories that garnered my attention this week.
Every Wednesday Dustin, HeyFranHey and Assante take a look at exploring mental hygiene, because who wants a musty mind? I’ve been subscribed to the show on iTunes for awhile now and in many ways I’ve come to enjoy it more than most of the podcasts I’ve listened to. I do feel that each host offers something particular and succinct that when put together, has the potential to bring about greatness. It’s still a new show and they are finding their format and balance, but its cool! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t agree with everything that is said and sometimes I take issue with the commentary and some things feel contradictory, but that’s life! I love that they are committed to not only promoting wellness, but practicing it themselves. I can absolutely appreciate a show as bold, funny, and endearing as this. Take some time and listen to the show. You guys have all my support.
Early last week my friend Drew Shade, from Broadway Black, got all of us slam announcing a podcast was coming, and he did it within 24 hours. I am completely here for his show Off-Book Theatre Podcast on soundcloud. I loved every minute of it! I’m trying to be as unbiased as possible; however, I’ve followed Drew and Broadway Black from the very beginning! His inception so clearly connects to so many of my dreams and if I was in NY I have no doubt we’d be working together. He is a blueprint of sorts to maneuvering through this business, steady handedly, with your own dream still attached, and he’s building a community that will support it. Off-Book is a fresh & new theatre podcast that is made with black theatre artists’ interests & issues in mind. Hosted by a theatre journalist, an actress, & a playwrightDrew Shade, Farah Lopez, & Donja Love. I look forward to next weeks episode.
I love Brandy. Her vocal ability, her tenacity, her relentless will to succeed, the list really goes on and on. Too often people forget that she was Beyonce before there was a Beyonce, the “it” girl of the 90’s, but I digress. This week she made her return to television with her new sitcom #ZoeEverAfter. I won’t lie, I tuned in and out of the debut on BET. The show needs work, but it’s new and I hope everyone is willing to give it a chance. The show, a romantic comedy about a woman dealing with divorce and life, is purported to feel like Moesha grew up, but instead its a lot more like Chardonnay. I do feel like she gave us a reward for watching with the release of her track, Beggin’ and Pleadin’. Just singing like its nobodies business. If you haven’t already, you can listen to the record here.
Simply put, there is no denying the talent of Fantasia Barrino. She has overcome enormous obstacle and difficulty and has been able to do so with her gift completely intact. She is a beast and should you need proof you can check out just about any live performance or tribute she has been tapped to do in the past ten years. Its hard to believe she won “the idol” in 2004, but she’s back and with the release of her single No Time for It, she lets us all know, clearly, that she’s not interested in our opining. Believe me when I say I get it, I want Fantasia to win, all over again; however, (comma) I don’t like the record, at all. Its a pop, radio friendly record and I won’t spend too much more time listening to it. I don’t think it does anything for her, but I’ll look forward to whats forth coming.
The Bill Cosby saga continues. Let me be clear, my new found obsession with Attorney Pressley is in no way an indication of my feelings towards Bill or the case against him. I appreciate her prowess. Her ability to speak poignantly to the public and her commitment to her belief. She is a Black woman on television dragging reporters and journalists left and right in her defense of a Black man and I think that’s to be respected. Heralded even, it’s not something we see everyday, if ever at all.
Well, that’s five guys! It looks like I spent my week with music, entertainment, and a little bit of news, but to be fair I did my fair share of reading as well. That being said, I’ll present an honorable mention. My friend Darnell Lamont Walker wrote a piece on rape culture, Rape is Rape: Calling Things by Their Proper Name, and I most certainly hope you’ll read it. Bigger than Bill Cosby and Miss Presley’s defense of him is the culture we live in and a society that makes little effort to protect victims of rape and so many injustices.
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Driving home from work, the other day, I kind of felt like shit. To be perfectly honest! I didn’t even really know why, I just found myself in a complete funk. I felt tired, and lackadaisical. I knew that at 5:15pm I still had a good hour of traffic to maneuver through, and then somehow I needed to muster up some kind of energy to be productive working on my real life. The one where I live in my dreams.
What’s interesting is how easily I slid out of that funk and found myself encouraged, productive, and left reveling in confirmation.
Let me go back just a bit. I had been challenging myself to wake up earlier all week. Surprisingly, it provides such a boost of energy. I was bright eyed and bushy tailed, all of that. This must have been Tuesday, yeah, it was my second day rising earlier and I was entering my morning routine, coffee with whipped cream, reading and watching Morning Joe. Then, a video of Ledisicame across my timeline. First of all, I love this lady. Ledisi has tremendous talent and her spirit is clean and pure. I love everything about her and she instantly gives me gratitude, but I digress.
I started my morning with Ledisi and at 5:15pm in all of my tired and moodiness, I yearned for her voice. There’s a song by Ledisi, Take Time, and many won’t know it because its from a vault of her music that we don’t easily have access to, but I love it.
I was navigating traffic, feeling like shit, and I knew I needed to share my uneasiness with someone. I said, “self, who the heck can I reach out to that will just get it? connect with what I’m feeling and hold me accountable to be productive?” Whelp, CourtneyB came to mind and she was right on time. She made me promise to get home and be productive, and I did.
After our exchange I went to soundcloud in search of this record, Take Time. I hope that you’ll listen to it, but it immediately like zen’d me out. I found balance and I told myself to suck it up, chin up, and do the work.
I get home to work on my website, my pinky promise to courtneyB and in an instance I decided to rebrand myself. To kind of shift or restructure everything, and I found that the universe was on my side. I ended up buying my domain keithandre.com for all of $0.40 (shoutout to godaddy.) I knew I was absolutely in the right direction. That was confirmation #1. Then I’m just basking in the goodness of God and I get an alert from periscope that Ledisi is live. Of course I tune in and I found myself flabbergasted to see that she was singing Take Time. Confirmation #2 There is no coincidence. She says it best,
you gotta write it,
be it, then
Ha. Wont he do it? Yes he will. Don’t ever discount YOUR ability to turn YOUR day around, or anything for that matter; and I don’t care what you believe. You absolutely have the opportunity to control your thinking! Do it!
When in doubt find music and friends who’ll push you into #thinkchanging and live in your dream.